In my life I’ve learnt that no doesn’t always mean no. Particularly with women. Though here when it does, you had better know or you could be off to jail. However, when you have a half-naked woman in your arms in bed breathing heavily in your ear, that’s when a no might not be a no, and it’s time to play the waiting game.
I’d thrown it all on the line and gone in for the kiss. Unfortunately, this kiss was met only by a turned face and some mumbling in Italian which I didn’t understand, though it seems as with the language of love, the language of rejection is also international. The Sam of a year ago would’ve perhaps been flustered or confused by this denial, but a string of dates and flings with slightly loopy girls has trained me strangely well in confronting this situation. In fact, I vividly remember the first time I’d been dating and ended up in bed with a half-naked girl who’d then said no when I tried to kiss her. I remember how comparatively innocent I was, the confusion and the frustration I felt, how annoyed and tense I was, and how much I didn’t understand. Then after a long time of laying close together, feeling each other’s breath on our necks, I remember how she gradually turned round and kissed me and, well, let’s just say the rest was history (that’s me ending that story subtly, but juuuusssttt in case of any confusion… we had sex). Bizarrely enough, the almost exact same sequence of events then happened to me with the next two girls I dated, and thus by the time I was out with Sara, I had become as cool as a cool-flavoured dorito in negotiating this kind of predicament. Gone were the nerves, the wondering about what I’d done wrong, or why it wasn’t happening, instead I just almost laughed to myself when she wouldn’t kiss me and thought, ‘really? This again?’. I just said to her it was fine, moved closer, lay there calmly with her in my arms and waited until she tried to kiss me. Then when she did try and kiss me, I was tempted to turn my face away just so I could make a girl know how this feels, but alas, my inner desperation got the better of me and we had sex instead.
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